I don't like catch-up calls
Does that make me a bad friend?
I'd rather have an experience together in person.
I think that's the only way true friendships form.
You go through something together.
Classmates studying for finals. Soldiers in the same squad. Coworkers on the same project. Moms in the same neighborhood. Roommates during a pandemic.
I'd rather make a new story with you in real time rather than tell you about what I've been up to lately.
We hold on to old friends.
But the truth is that people come in and out of your life.
You change. They change. Your interests change. Your goals change. Your hobbies change.
So it makes sense that the people in your life change too.
the people in your life can and should change over time. but there is value to long-term friends, especially those who are willing and able to grow in pace with you (even if not in the same direction). I find this can give a lot of important perspective.
i also think that society should normalize people dropping in and out of friendship more, its rarely a personal slight and most often a change in circumstance
Yes, but sometimes it's worth the effort of a call or video if you can't make it in person.